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The Gift of Tears

Details: Written by Tammi Baliszewski, Ph.D.

As a Holistic Life Counselor I often support people in navigating through the confusing terrain of grief. During the healing journey deep sadness can bubble up as suppressed emotion from the past, or by virtue of a current situation which can unleash an unexpected river of tears. Last week one of my clients was in a great deal of pain and my advice to her was: "Do not fight or suppress your tears, allow them to wash through you. Relax into your feelings without resistance and eventually you will get to the other side." I wholeheartedly agree with Gary Zukav who has said: "Tears are the healing balm to the soul." However, it is potentially compelling to deny our tears and distract ourselves from pain, because it hurts to hurt.

A Promise Ring Can Stand for Many Things

Details: Written by Ashley A Walker

A promise ring is a beautiful present that can symbolize many things to the person who gives it and the person who receives it, depending on the circumstances. It can mean that the couple will be faithful to one another. It could also mean that the giver promises to return to the wearer after a long trip, such as a hitch in the military. It can symbolize friendship, love, trust, fidelity before marriage or the intention to marry. It is not meant as an engagement ring. It doesn't necessarily symbolize the intention to get married unless it was given with that in mind.

Ten Lies Enablers Tell Themselves

Details: Written by Cindy Burrell

I have been where you are. I understand the confusion and chaos you live with. I have told myself all of the same things you tell yourself, the rationalizations you use to justify the insanity of an unsafe relationship. I have also found freedom. I have discovered the truth. I want to you discover the same. Sometimes it takes a little jolt to get us out of our dysfunctional mindset so that we can renew our strength and find the determination we need to break the cycle. Have these thoughts crossed your mind?

Leaving An Abuser: What to Expect and How to Stay Grounded

Details: Written by Cindy Burrell

Abusers are extremely predictable. In my experience as a survivor and now through encounters with other abuse victims and survivors, it is apparent that the abuser's response to separation from his or her enabler-victim taps into a collection of tactics that is shockingly consistent. So, in the event that you have separated or are considering leaving an abusive relationship, it might be helpful to get a small taste of some of the things you can expect, together with a few recommendations on how to stay grounded. Of course, these are generalities. It is impossible to predict what every abuser will do, but the pattern is often very much the same.

Believers Considering Divorce

Details: Written by Cindy Burrell

For Believers Considering Divorce

"God hates divorce." This Scripture, taken from the book of Malachi, is commonly used by friends, family, and pastoral counselors. I struggled for years with this decree, as I know others have in situations similar to my own. Although I was an abuse victim, my love for the Lord and my desire to please Him fueled my unrealistic belief that, between my faith and the Lord's intervention, my abuser would change. In truth, my former husband did not want to change, and my desire to keep my marriage whole - at the expense of our family - was both foolish and destructive.

I Know How the Blind Man Felt

Details: Written by Cindy Burrell

What began as a life-changing encounter between a blind man and the Messiah should have culminated in celebration. Instead, this man whose life had been miraculously changed for the better finds himself facing cruel accusations and ultimately rejection.

My story has some similarities. But, in order to understand my story, we must first take a look at his.

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The Gift of Tears

A Promise Ring Can Stand for Many Things

Ten Lies Enablers Tell Themselves

Leaving An Abuser: What to Expect and How to Stay Grounded

Believers Considering Divorce

I Know How the Blind Man Felt

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